The Now Habit is now available for purchase through the RFR Amazon store.
Here are some excerpts from The Now Habit Philosopher's Notes:
"A complete treatment of procrastination must address the underlying blocked needs that cause a person to resort to procrastination. The Now Habit starts with a new definition: Procrastination is a mechanism for coping with anxiety associated with starting or completing any task or decision. From this definition it follows that those most vunerable to procrastination are those who feel the most threatened by difficulty in starting a project, criticisionm failure, and the loss of other opportunities that may result from committing to one project." ~Neil Fiore
"It is not discipline, willpower, or pressure from others that facilitates adherence to a challenging course of action. Rather, it is the freedom to choose , the personal commitment to a mission, and the willingness to take responsibility for the consequences of our decisions that steels the will and emboldens the spirit." ~ Neil Fiore from "The Road Back to Health"
VICTIM/PROCRASTINATOR? YOUR CALL
“Certainly others are frequently in positions of power to affect you and your job, and they might even try to judge your work or your skills. But they can never make you into a victim or a procrastinator. Only YOU can do that.”
This is Big. Super Big. (Technically speaking, of course. :)
It’s REALLY easy to fall into victim-mode where we blame those around us for our problems and look for rescuers to bail us out. Know that there’s a BIG difference between being victimized—which we ALL are at times (from being abused as children or cut off on the way to work) and being a victim.
Too often we think that being victimized DETERMINES our victimhood. But it doesn’t. We ALWAYS have a choice as to how we interpret an event and it’s REALLY (!!!) important we make that choice wisely.
So, if you’re currently feeling persecuted by people or circumstances in your life, take a moment to step back and see that between the challenges and your response there’s a gap. You wanna step in there and ask yourself how you can create the best response to the situation and avoid falling into the habits of complaining, criticizing, blaming and all that other not-so-fun stuff of victimville.
Why is this so important? Check out the video below on Learned Optimism for the research on “learned helplessness” and the fact that when we assume the role of disempowered/helpless victim we dramatically increase our likelihood of being depressed/sick/tired/etc.As Fiore says: “The change in my feelings at that moment was quite dramatic. Stress was replaced with purposeful action; a sense of victimhood was transformed into empowerment.”
Becoming a Producer:"As you begin to speak to yourself in a language that focuses on results rather than blame, on choice rather than have to, on what is rather than what you think should be, you will find that your body and mind cooperate by providing a level of positive energy free from the unnecessary struggles of the past and negative comparisons with the future." ~ Neil Fiore
"What small steps can I take NOW
so I can create the future I’m so excited about
as I enjoy this moment I’m so blessed to have?!?"
So, let’s have fun shifting from procrastinator to producer and KNOW that every time we make the shift we’re re-grooving our consciousness in powerful ways!